If you’re familiar with failure then taking that first step towards success (the second time around) may be daunting. In fact, it may seem downright impossible. Big dreams require a big investment. If your first attempt didn’t pan out, chances are, you lost more than a dream. Everything you put in will feel wasted as well.
Starting over may be easier said than done, but let’s look at your options:
a) Beat yourself up about it and bury the dream, living the rest of your life with regret.
b) Make excuses, shift the blame and learn nothing from your experience.
c) Own up, let it go and forge a new path forward!
The only option that offers you a real shot at success is the latter. Own up, let it go and forge a new path forward. As challenging as this may be, take a moment to consider the alternative and imagine living your life this way.
Now imagine the life you dream of… Can you see it? If you can, there’s no reason to stay stuck.
Here’s how YOU can Start Over
Let go of past losses. This won’t happen automatically and there’s no instant remedy to remove all of your fears and disappointments. But if you fail to face the past, you will fail to secure your future.
So allocate time to reflect on everything you hoped for and everything you lost. You will eventually discover that past losses can still contribute to your success, but first you have to be unburdened by them.
This is a great quote by Zen Master, Suzuki Roshi:
“We don’t need to learn to let go. We just need to recognise what it already gone.”
Learn from your experience. This is impossible to do if you are justifying decisions that resulted in your losses. There may be valid reasons that played a role at the time, but if you’re justifying your actions to convince everyone of their merit, it may be time to stop talking and start listening.
Excuses are expensive and will cost you YOUR SUCCESS. Listen to the story you keep on telling yourself and others. Does it make you feel empowered and in control? If not, you may be wasting time on justifying your actions or on blaming others for your experience, instead of taking responsibility.
If you own it, you can change it – when starting over, this is imperative for success. Taking responsibility means recognising past mistakes and using that insight to create meaningful change. If you own your experience, the positive and negative aspects of it, nothing is wasted. Every loss becomes a lesson, so you are more equipped and prepared than ever before.
Starting over is scary, especially when the risks outweigh the rewards at first. If you are hesitant, ask yourself: what will happen if I don’t do this and can I live with that?
While answers to this question differ, many say:
§ I will never know if I could’ve been successful
§ My current life will always feel like coming in second place
§ I’ll live with this regret forever and envy others who achieve success
There is no reason to start over on your own. Whether you need to let go, gain insight or find courage, a Lead Life Coach is standing by to assist you. With expertise in personal development and business coaching, we will walk with you every step of the way.
Call Lead Life Coaching, Pretoria and create YOUR new beginning today!